P\u00ebrvojat e f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb thell\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn si e sheh veten, t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt dhe bot\u00ebn p\u00ebrreth. N\u00ebse prind\u00ebrit kan\u00eb qen\u00eb t\u00eb q\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm dhe emocionalisht t\u00eb pranish\u00ebm, zakonisht zhvillohet nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb e sigurt lidhjeje dhe nj\u00eb vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsim i sh\u00ebndetsh\u00ebm. Por f\u00ebmij\u00ebt q\u00eb kalojn\u00eb shum\u00eb koh\u00eb duke u l\u00ebn\u00eb vet\u00ebm shpesh rriten duke mbartur modele emocionale q\u00eb nuk i kuptojn\u00eb plot\u00ebsisht; modele q\u00eb vijn\u00eb nga ndjenja e t\u00eb qenit i paduksh\u00ebm, i pamb\u00ebshtetur ose i detyruar t\u00eb p\u00ebrballen her\u00ebt me gjith\u00e7ka vet\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
T\u00eb qenit i l\u00ebn\u00eb vet\u00ebm shpesh n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri nuk e p\u00ebrcakton domosdoshm\u00ebrisht t\u00eb ardhmen, por mund t\u00eb l\u00ebr\u00eb gjurm\u00eb t\u00eb thella n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie dhe n\u00eb sh\u00ebndetin emocional. Prind\u00ebrit jan\u00eb modelet e para t\u00eb lidhjes dhe kur kjo mb\u00ebshtetje mungon ose \u00ebsht\u00eb e paq\u00ebndrueshme, pasojat mund t\u00eb shfaqen m\u00eb von\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyra t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
M\u00eb posht\u00eb jan\u00eb 11 tipare q\u00eb shpesh zhvillohen tek t\u00eb rriturit q\u00eb kan\u00eb p\u00ebrjetuar nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri t\u00eb till\u00eb:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. Nuk ndihesh se meriton dashuri<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Nj\u00eb shenj\u00eb e zakonshme \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebnyra si e pranon dashurin\u00eb. N\u00ebse je rritur duke u l\u00ebn\u00eb vet\u00ebm, mund t\u00eb kesh dyshime n\u00ebse je i\/e denj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u dashur. Kjo lidhet me m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn si krijohen lidhjet emocionale n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri. Kur kujdesi ka qen\u00eb i munguar ose i paq\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm, shpesh zhvillohet nj\u00eb stil lidhjeje shmang\u00ebs, ku personi ka v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi t\u00eb lidhet thell\u00eb me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Kjo mund t\u00eb forcoj\u00eb bindjen se \u201c\u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb jem vet\u00ebm\u201d. Megjithat\u00eb, k\u00ebto modele nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb pandryshueshme, ato mund t\u00eb ndryshohen me vet\u00ebdije, komunikim t\u00eb hapur dhe p\u00ebrpunim t\u00eb s\u00eb kaluar\u00ebs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. Ndihesh shpesh emocionalisht i mpir\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00ebse e ke t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb kuptosh ose t\u00eb ndjesh emocionet e tua, mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb pasoj\u00eb e munges\u00ebs s\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetjes emocionale n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri. Kur nevojat emocionale nuk plot\u00ebsohen, shum\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb m\u00ebsojn\u00eb t\u00eb shk\u00ebputen nga ndjenjat si mekaniz\u00ebm mbrojt\u00ebs. Kjo mpirje ndihmon p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbijetuar n\u00eb at\u00eb koh\u00eb, por n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb rritur e b\u00ebn t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb jesh i hapur dhe i lidhur emocionalisht me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Ke frik\u00eb t\u00eb jesh barr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Shpesh ekziston nj\u00eb frik\u00eb e brendshme se k\u00ebrkesat e tua mund t\u00eb r\u00ebndojn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Kjo t\u00eb b\u00ebn t\u00eb mos hapesh leht\u00eb dhe t\u00eb mos k\u00ebrkosh ndihm\u00eb, edhe kur ke nevoj\u00eb. N\u00eb baz\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj q\u00ebndron frika se, n\u00ebse shpreh nevojat e tua, mund t\u00eb refuzohesh apo t\u00eb braktisesh p\u00ebrs\u00ebri. Megjithat\u00eb, shmangia e nevojave personale mund t\u00eb sjell\u00eb lodhje emocionale dhe v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi n\u00eb nd\u00ebrtimin e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. Ke v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi t\u00eb vendos\u00ebsh kufij<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Mungesa e v\u00ebmendjes n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri ndikon n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn si e percepton veten dhe t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Kjo shpesh shfaqet n\u00eb dy ekstreme: ose i lejon t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt t\u00eb shkelin kufijt\u00eb e tu, ose vendos kufij shum\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00eb q\u00eb i mbajn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt larg. Kufijt\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbrojtur veten dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme, por k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb praktik\u00eb dhe vet\u00ebdije p\u00ebr t\u2019u vendosur n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb balancuar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. Pret gjithmon\u00eb q\u00eb di\u00e7ka t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb keq<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00ebse je rritur n\u00eb nj\u00eb mjedis t\u00eb paq\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm, mund t\u00eb jesh gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje alarmi. Trupi dhe mendja q\u00ebndrojn\u00eb n\u00eb gatishm\u00ebri t\u00eb vazhdueshme, duke pritur rrezik. Edhe kur objektivisht je i sigurt, sistemi yt nervor mund t\u00eb reagoj\u00eb sikur di\u00e7ka e keqe \u00ebsht\u00eb duke ndodhur. Kjo krijon ankth t\u00eb vazhduesh\u00ebm dhe v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u2019u relaksuar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 6. Futesh n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb paq\u00ebndrueshme<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Kur nuk ke m\u00ebsuar t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetesh tek t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb sigurt, krijimi i marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve t\u00eb q\u00ebndrueshme b\u00ebhet i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb. Mund t\u00eb t\u00ebrhiqesh nga lidhje intensive por jo t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme, ose t\u00eb humbas\u00ebsh interes kur dikush b\u00ebhet emocionalisht i disponuesh\u00ebm. Q\u00ebndrueshm\u00ebria mund t\u00eb duket e panjohur ose e sikletshme sepse nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb pjes\u00eb e p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebs t\u00ebnde t\u00eb hershme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 7. Ndihesh shpesh i paduksh\u00ebm<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00eb situata sociale mund t\u00eb kesh ndjesin\u00eb se askush nuk t\u00eb v\u00ebren apo nuk t\u00eb kushton v\u00ebmendje. Kjo lidhet me p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb kur nuk ke marr\u00eb mjaftuesh\u00ebm v\u00ebmendje apo p\u00ebrkujdesje. Kjo ndjesi shpesh shoq\u00ebrohet me vet\u00ebbesim t\u00eb ul\u00ebt dhe ndjenj\u00eb t\u00eb dob\u00ebt p\u00ebrkat\u00ebsie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 8. Ke v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi n\u00eb marrjen e vendimeve<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Mungesa e udh\u00ebzimit n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri mund t\u00eb krijoj\u00eb pasiguri t\u00eb thell\u00eb. Si rezultat, mund t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetesh shum\u00eb te mendimet e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb vendime. Kjo tregon munges\u00eb besimi n\u00eb gjykimin personal. Me praktik\u00eb dhe d\u00ebgjim t\u00eb intuit\u00ebs, kjo aft\u00ebsi mund t\u00eb zhvillohet gradualisht.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 9. Ndihesh shpesh i vetmuar<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Nj\u00eb efekt afatgjat\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ndjenja e vetmis\u00eb edhe kur je mes njer\u00ebzve. Kjo ndodh sepse nevojat emocionale t\u00eb paplot\u00ebsuara nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebria vazhdojn\u00eb t\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e rritur. Vetmia mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u p\u00ebrballuar, por lidhjet e forta dhe autentike mund t\u00eb ndihmojn\u00eb n\u00eb sh\u00ebrim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 10. Nuk ndihesh rehat t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetesh tek t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Kur je m\u00ebsuar t\u00eb p\u00ebrballesh vet\u00ebm, mb\u00ebshtetja tek t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt mund t\u00eb duket e panatyrshme. Kjo \u201cpavar\u00ebsi e tepruar\u201d mund t\u00eb krijoj\u00eb distanc\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie, sepse nuk i lejon t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt t\u00eb t\u00eb ndihmojn\u00eb. T\u00eb lejoj\u00ebsh dik\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtes\u00eb nuk t\u00eb heq pavar\u00ebsin\u00eb, por e b\u00ebn marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien m\u00eb t\u00eb ekuilibruar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 11. Ke v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi t\u00eb kuptosh identitetin t\u00ebnd<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Kur nuk je reflektuar dhe kuptuar mjaftuesh\u00ebm n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri, mund t\u00eb rritesh pa nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb t\u00eb qart\u00eb p\u00ebr veten. Mund t\u00eb ndryshosh sipas njer\u00ebzve p\u00ebrreth ose t\u00eb mos jesh i sigurt p\u00ebr preferencat dhe q\u00ebllimet e tua. Identiteti nd\u00ebrtohet me koh\u00ebn, duke m\u00ebsuar \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatet realisht dhe \u00e7far\u00eb jo.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"P\u00ebrvojat e f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb thell\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn si e sheh veten, t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt dhe bot\u00ebn p\u00ebrreth. 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