Ndoshta nuk ekziston nj\u00eb zgjidhje magjike p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsuar humorin dhe mir\u00ebqenien ton\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme, por nj\u00eb ndryshim i thjesht\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn se si p\u00ebrdorim rrjetet sociale mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb nj\u00eb diferenc\u00eb reale. Ky ndryshim \u00ebsht\u00eb i shpejt\u00eb, i leht\u00eb dhe sipas shum\u00eb ekspert\u00ebve, sjell rezultate t\u00eb ndjeshe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Gazetarja e mir\u00ebqenies n\u00eb The Guardian, Madeleine Aggeler, vendosi t\u00eb provoj\u00eb nj\u00eb strategji t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb, t\u00eb hesht\u00eb (b\u00ebj mute) disa p\u00ebrdorues n\u00eb rrjetet sociale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Procesi ndryshon nga nj\u00eb platform\u00eb n\u00eb tjetr\u00ebn, funksioni mund t\u00eb quhet\u00a0mute, snooze\u00a0ose\u00a0restrict, por q\u00ebllimi \u00ebsht\u00eb i nj\u00ebjt\u00eb. Ai \u201cpastron\u201d gradualisht kronologjin\u00eb ton\u00eb nga postimet e njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb, p\u00ebr \u00e7far\u00ebdo arsye, na prishin humorin, pa qen\u00eb e nevojshme t\u2019i heqim nga lista e miqve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Aggeler tregon se ka zgjedhur t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb mute disa persona p\u00ebr arsye t\u00eb ndryshme. Disa nuk d\u00ebshironte t\u2019i hiqte nga lista e miqve, nd\u00ebrsa t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve u ka b\u00ebr\u00eb edhe unfollow, edhe mute, p\u00ebr t\u00eb shmangur q\u00eb postimet e tyre t\u00eb shfaqeshin p\u00ebrmes ripostimeve t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mes tyre ishte edhe nj\u00eb person i famsh\u00ebm q\u00eb dikur ishte sjell\u00eb keq me t\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje pune, nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb kishte ofenduar nj\u00eb mik t\u00eb saj, si edhe nj\u00eb ish-partner. Sipas saj, postimet e k\u00ebtyre njer\u00ebzve nxirrnin n\u00eb pah an\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb keqe t\u00eb vetes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sa her\u00eb q\u00eb i shihte n\u00eb rrjete sociale, ndjente zem\u00ebrim dhe frustrim. Madje, n\u00eb momente nervozizmi, i shkonte nd\u00ebr mend ideja absurde p\u00ebr t\u00eb vendosur tabela n\u00ebp\u00ebr qytet ku t\u00eb tregonte sa t\u00eb paduruesh\u00ebm ishin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Por pasi vendosi t\u2019i \u201cfshij\u00eb\u201d pothuajse n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha platformat, situata ndryshoi. N\u00ebse dikush nuk i p\u00ebrmend n\u00eb bised\u00eb, ajo shpesh harron q\u00eb k\u00ebta persona ekzistojn\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cI kam fshir\u00eb nga kopshti i harlisur i mendjes sime\u201d, shprehet ajo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Edhe Bailey Parnell, themeluese dhe presidente e Qendr\u00ebs p\u00ebr Mir\u00ebqenie Digjitale, konfirmon se kjo strategji mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb shum\u00eb e dobishme. Sipas saj, kur heqim llogarit\u00eb q\u00eb na shqet\u00ebsojn\u00eb vazhdimisht, vendosim kufij q\u00eb krijojn\u00eb nj\u00eb mjedis digjital m\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetsh\u00ebm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cN\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb, njer\u00ebzit mbrojn\u00eb sh\u00ebndetin e tyre mendor duke ruajtur nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht edhe rrjetet sociale apo profesionale\u201d, shpjegon ajo.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Megjithat\u00eb, ekspert\u00ebt theksojn\u00eb se kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb aq e thjesht\u00eb sa duket. N\u00eb disa raste, postimet q\u00eb na irritojn\u00eb mund t\u00eb na t\u00ebrheqin pik\u00ebrisht sepse shkaktojn\u00eb emocione t\u00eb forta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Terapistja, Monica Amorosi, shpjegon se pas nj\u00eb emocioni intensiv mund t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb edhe nj\u00eb shp\u00ebrthim dopamine. N\u00ebse jeta \u00ebsht\u00eb monotone dhe mungojn\u00eb stimujt, konsumimi i p\u00ebrmbajtjeve q\u00eb na irritojn\u00eb mund t\u00eb shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb nj\u00eb form\u00eb arg\u00ebtimi ose shp\u00ebrqendrimi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Megjithat\u00eb, Amorosi paralajm\u00ebron se nuk duhet t\u00eb shkojm\u00eb n\u00eb ekstrem duke p\u00ebrjashtuar \u00e7do mendim apo informacion q\u00eb nuk na p\u00eblqen. Kjo mund t\u00eb na mbyll\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb \u201cfllusk\u00eb injorance\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00eb vend t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, ajo sugjeron q\u00eb rrjetet sociale t\u00eb p\u00ebrdoren kryesisht si burim informacioni pozitiv, edukimi dhe lidhjeje me njer\u00ebz q\u00eb ndajn\u00eb interesa t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sipas k\u00ebsaj logjike, \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb hiqen ata persona q\u00eb na irritojn\u00eb vazhdimisht pa na ofruar asgj\u00eb me vler\u00eb, p\u00ebr shembull, nj\u00eb koleg q\u00eb nuk b\u00ebn gj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr ve\u00e7se mburret vazhdimisht p\u00ebr sukseset e tij.<\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb, p\u00ebrve\u00e7 qet\u00ebsis\u00eb mendore, mund t\u00eb fitojm\u00eb edhe pak koh\u00eb t\u00eb vlefshme. Si\u00e7 shprehet edhe vet\u00eb Aggeler, shpesh kur shmang postime t\u00eb tilla kursen disa minuta q\u00eb p\u00ebrndryshe do t\u2019i kalonte duke b\u00ebr\u00eb screenshot dhe duke u ankuar tek miqt\u00eb<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Ndoshta nuk ekziston nj\u00eb zgjidhje magjike p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsuar humorin dhe mir\u00ebqenien ton\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme, por nj\u00eb ndryshim…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":3401,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[148,153],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-3400","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-lajme","8":"category-magazina","9":"cs-entry","10":"cs-video-wrap"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sotpost.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3400","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sotpost.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sotpost.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sotpost.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sotpost.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3400"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/sotpost.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3400\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3402,"href":"https:\/\/sotpost.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3400\/revisions\/3402"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sotpost.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/3401"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sotpost.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3400"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sotpost.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3400"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sotpost.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3400"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}